Friday, 28 April 2017

I only read one book in March (which I forgot to photograph, but I'll still talk about below), and I'm quite disappointed in myself. I finished my Goodreads Reading Challenge in February and then, all of a sudden, I lost complete momentum to continue reading. I put a lot of my time into blogging during March; I joined quite a few Facebook blogging groups, started reading a bunch of new blogs, and I was constantly brainstorming post ideas, and I guess the month just got away from me.

This month I only read 3 books, which really isn't that much better, but it's still an improvement. As I said in my April in Review post, I did get out of the house a lot this month and spent more time with friends, so I'm not beating myself up about not reading too much. Anyway, here are the books that I read throughout March and April!

The Rosie Effect, by Graeme Simsion.

I love being able to see life through Don's point of view. I love how completely literal and logical he is at all times. As someone who has a lot of feelings which often get in the way of my decision making, it really is so interesting to get inside the mind of someone who is the opposite. I didn't particularly like Rosie, but then again I don't remember being too fond of her in The Rosie Project either.

However, I really felt that she was far too hard on Don in this book, and she told him a really awful lie that made me not be able to trust her anymore. Gene also made a really dumb decision to tell a bunch of lies that did not help him out at all and ultimately ruined his life, but it was his fault so I felt no sympathy for him. Even though the characters were frustrating at times, I still loved this book and would be interested in reading more of Graeme Simsion's work.

Kiss & Tell, by Alain de Botton.

After I read The Consolations of Philosophy, I fell in love with Alain de Botton's mind and vowed to read anything he's ever written. Since then I have found Kiss & Tell and The Architecture of Happiness at thrift stores, although I am yet to read the latter. The plot of Kiss & Tell intrigued me straight away: accused by his ex-girlfriend of being unable to empathise, the narrator vows to write about the next person who walks into his life, which is Isabel. Isabel is a regular, ordinary girl, but learning minuscule details about her through this book made her seem more than that.

When you start to get to know somebody, they are no longer a nobody. There are somebody with quirk and secrets and flaws. Whilst I didn't actually like Isabel as a person, and I did find this book a little slow at times, I love getting to know people right down to their core. I love brutal honesty, I love vulnerability; I want to know so much about a person that I could find my way around their heart, or mind, whilst blindfolded, and that was the narrator's goal as well. Whilst there wasn't too much of an actual plot, I still found this book enjoyable and it made me wish all over again that I could know everyone in the world like the back of my hand.

Breakfast at Tiffany's, by Truman Capote.

This was a strange book. Holly was a strange person. I'm not sure what I was expecting, but it managed to surprise me at nearly every turn of a page. I think people treated Holly far better than she deserved, but I can also understand how everyone was in complete awe of her. She did what she liked, whenever she wanted to, and whilst that's not a very stable or even nice way to live, it is still somewhat enviable.

Some of the language in this book surprised me, as a few things Holly said would certainly not be considered politically correct today. I did like how quick and easy this book was though - and it's nice to cross another classic off my to-read list! I have added the movie to my Netflix list and hope to watch it soon, as I've heard that it's amazing.

Where the Sidewalks Ends, by Shel Silverstein.

I was honestly expecting more from this book - especially considering over a million people have rated it on Goodreads, which is incredible. Only around 800, 000 have rated Frankenstein, and an even lower number of people have rated Alice in Wonderland, at just over 72, 000. I am aware that I am not the intended audience for this book, and it's possible that I would have loved it as a child, but it really didn't do much for me as a 20-year-old.

A few poems here and there made me chuckle, but some others made me think Shel was a little preachy. For example, 'Point of View' is sure to guilt any child out of ever eating meat or animal by-products again. 'The Edge of the World' also blatantly says not to believe anyone that says the world is round because he has "been down to the edge of the world" and "can tell you, boys and girls, the world is FLAT!" - which is just plain incorrect. I am no mother, and don't plan on being one, but I am aware that children are very impressionable and I think we need to watch what they see, read and/or hear, especially while they're young. I wonder how many children gave up meat, or started believing that the Earth is flat, after reading this.

Did you read anything this month that you enjoyed - or something that you didn't?

Until next time,
Indya xx

Monday, 24 April 2017

I do realise that April isn't actually over yet, but I have another post planned for Friday that I need a little more time to complete, so this one got bumped up to today! I know people say this all the time, but it honestly felt like I blinked and April was gone. I didn't even notice until a few days ago that I still hadn't turned my calendar over from March, which caused me to nearly miss two important events!

Even though the last three weeks have flown by, April has still been a pretty good month for me. I read more than I did last month, but still nowhere near as much as I used to. Now that I follow and read over 100 blogs because I keep finding ones that interest me, it's hard to make time for actual books, but I'm trying. I also watched a few movies - which is something I mentioned in my 21 Before 21 post that I wanted to do more often - so I'll be talking about them in this post, as well as any songs that I've been listening to lately.

Anyway, here is how my April was (so far)!


♡ Went to my best friend's Harry Potter themed 21st.

♡ Hung out with some work friends in the city.
♡ Saw Arj Barker live at the Melbourne International Comedy Festival.
♡ Visited friends that we hadn't seen in over 5 months.
♡ Celebrated my fourth Easter with Daniel.
♡ Spent time with family after not seeing them for a while.
 Cooked dumplings on the stove all by myself.
 Reached 42 followers on Bloglovin'.



(500) Days Of Summer: 7/10

This was an interesting movie, but I knew it would be. Zooey Deschanel has a way of being in quite peculiar movies, which is something I love about her. Overall I did like this movie, it made me laugh, and there's nothing that makes my heart melt more than someone who is completely and irrevocably in love with someone else. Hearing someone talk about the person they're in love with is amazing. Tom thought Summer was the best thing that had ever happened to him, which was very sweet, but he failed to pay attention to who she actually was. She told him upfront that she didn't want anything serious, that she didn't want to put a label on it, and yet he ignored her, and got angry when she didn't want to do those things, which wasn't fair.

I also think Summer isn't a very good person. She knew how Tom felt about her and she still lead him on, acted distant whenever it suited her, and then ultimately left him, met someone else and got married in around 200 days. I know it was because she had found "the one" and all, but I don't think it made sense at all. That's just not who she was. That wasn't character development, it was just a sudden change. I do tend to only really look for what I don't like in movies, but I actually did like this movie. My favourite part was definitely when the girl at the interview revealed her name, right at the end of the movie. That was a good ending.

The Truman Show: 8/10
I have watched this movie before, but it was quite a while ago and I couldn't remember what happened. I actually chose it because I wanted to watch something funny, forgetting how serious and sad this movie actually is. This is certainly a unique movie that really makes you think about the perception of reality - as well as how we treat others, and how we think we know what is best for them. I quite like this movie, and a few of Jim Carrey's other works from the late 90's to the early 00's.

Finding Dory: 9.5/10
I had no idea that this was even on Netflix or I would have watched it straight away. I just happened to see when I was browsing through the Kids section one day and I was so excited. Daniel and I watched it that night and I loved the entire thing. The scenes with baby Dory made my heart melt, and I also loved Hank, Bailey and Destiny.

The only thing stopping me from giving it 10/10 is that they really emphasised Dory's short-term memory problem to the point that is was over-bearing. Her memory was nowhere near as bad in Finding Nemo, but it was the main plot point so I get that they had to amp it up a bit. I really did love this movie though.

American Beauty: 7/10
This movie was intense. Not at all what I thought it was going to be like. I was basically expecting the same kind of movie as Lolita, but it wasn't like that at all. In fact, the girl that he becomes infatuated with is barely the main plot line, there is so much else going on: the wife's affair; the daughter's boyfriend who I still didn't really understand even at the end; the boyfriend's dad who turned out just as I expected, yet still managed to surprise me at the end due to the scene leading up to it; and the fact that Angela turned out to be just talk after all.

This movie really showed that no one is who you think are. We all have demons; some of us can deal with them, others can't. One particular thought I had throughout this entire movie was that I don't want to end up like Lester and Carolyn. I refuse to be stuck in an unhappy relationship with a job that I hate - that is just a waste of a life.


♡ F.F.F. (F*ck Fake Friends) - Bebe Rexha

♡ Ciao Adios - Anne-Marie
 Alarm - Anne-Marie
 So Good - Louisa Johnson
 I Got The Boy - Jana Kramer
 Everyday - Ariana Grande
 Cool Girl - Tove Lo
♡ No More Sad Songs - Little Mix
 Sit Still, Look Pretty - Daya


How was your month? Was there anything in particular that made you really happy?

Until next time,
Indya xx

Friday, 21 April 2017

Last month on Instagram I mentioned that I had started bullet journaling, which I mostly wanted to do to track my spendings. March was the first month I had ever tracked my spendings - and my savings - and it's safe to say that I was absolutely mortified at the result. I am overall happy with what I have saved within the first 3 and a half months of this year, but when I compare it to how much I've spent, it's pretty awful. In March alone, I only saved 1/6 of the amount of I spent - so, times the amount I saved by 6, and that's roughly how much I spent.

In my spendings tracker I wrote down where I spent my money, but I didn't write exactly what I got so it was hard to say what purchases were necessary or not, but I do know what my biggest 'trigger' is: sadness. Whenever I get sad, which is quite often unfortunately, I either shop or eat junk food. Or both, which is even worse.

I have big plans for the future. I want my dream house, a fancy wedding, and to travel the world, but with how my current spending habits are going, that's not going to happen, so I am trying a no-spend month to help get myself into a better routine. I realise that it is currently the 21st, which is nowhere near the start of the month, so my no-spend month will be from today until the 21st of May.

My no-spend month is going to be very lenient compared to other people's. Very lenient. My biggest goal for the month is to not give in to impulse and comfort purchases, as they really are my biggest weakness, but there's still a lot of things I'm going to allow myself to spend money on that I know a lot of people will think are silly, but they bring me a lot of joy. The rules I'm setting myself for my no-spend month are:

I can:

- Buy new pins if I really want them, as long as I don't spend over $100 on them for the entire month.
- Go out on pre-planned adventures and spend time with friends, being as frugal as possible with my meal and activity choices.
- Buy things for DIY projects and/or recipe testing as these usually aren't very pricey anyway.
- Replace products as I use/need them, such as hair dye.

I can't:

- Go on spontaneous shopping trips or visits to the food court. Leaving my card at home will help this.
- Buy things when I'm sad, especially online.
- Visit any thrift stores, as they are one of my biggest weaknesses.
- Get takeout due to laziness, boredom and/or sadness.

I know it sounds like I'm still allowing myself to spend quite a lot, but the thing I spend most of my money on is pins (I spent $100 on them in one day in March), and now that I've set myself a limit, hopefully I'll be able to stick to it. I've already got two packets of hair dye, so I really shouldn't need to buy any more. The things I need for some DIY projects and recipes that I want to try are very inexpensive, and I don't usually spend much when I go out with friends either, so I actually am pretty confident that I won't spend much this month.


This is my first time trying a no spend month, so I'm really not sure what to expect. I know it's going to be hard to get out of the habit of giving in to sadness and boredom, but I've just got to remind myself of all the things I am saving for. In fact, I might make some lists and/or collages of those things as a way to keep myself on track.

Until next time,
Indya xx

Wednesday, 19 April 2017

 In my 21 Before 21 post I mentioned that I wanted to watch more movies, and I've actually been enjoying it. I started with a movie I hadn't seen but had heard a lot about, but I've also been re-watching movies I haven't watched in years and falling in love with them all over again. I tend to get sad a lot when I'm at home, especially when I'm alone, so spending my time watching movies has enabled me to get out of my own mind and focus on other things, which is always good.

 This woman has stopped caring about a lot of things as she got older, and you should too.

♡ Daniel and I saw Arj Barker live at the Melbourne International Comedy Festival and it was easily one of the greatest hours of my life. I laughed until I cried, and did not stop smiling the entire time. I'm sure I've mentioned my love of stand-up comedians before, and nothing compares to seeing them live. I hope to see him again on his next tour.

I recently read this important post about immigrants vs. expats, which opened my eyes to things that I wasn't even aware of.

 On the night before Easter Sunday, Daniel hid chocolate eggs and bunnies for me to find in the morning, and made bunny footprints with a stencil and talcum powder around the house because that's what his best friend's mum used to do when they were kids. They still do it now for the younger family members, and they even put some scattered around the town so other kids can enjoy it too.

 This father illustrated some of his daughter's most interesting thoughts, and they're pretty brilliant.

 I really liked this brilliant blog post that reminds you that you already have it all.

Until next time,
Indya xx

Monday, 17 April 2017

As I mentioned in my Day in the Life post, it's difficult for Daniel and I to have a set routine as our work hours change every week, but there's still a few things that we do together every night to ensure that we always spend some time with each other.

Eat dinner and watch something together.
After we finally decide what to eat - which takes forever as we're both so indecisive - I will clean whatever utensils we'll need, and then Daniel cooks. Once it's ready, we'll either sit on the couch or at our desks, and watch something on Netflix while we eat. I know people think watching TV while you eat is a bad habit and stunts conversation, but it's very much the opposite for us.

We love watching TV shows together as we have the same humour, and there's nothing better than watching a good plot twist or cliffhanger with your best friend next to you, freaking out just as much as you are. Together we've watched Friends, Will & Grace, How I Met Your Mother (which we're currently watching for a second time at the moment) and Modern Family, as well as parts of other shows here and there.

Brush teeth and get into bed.
Neither of these things are particularly groundbreaking, as everyone does them both each night, but they're things that we always do together. I don't think either one of us has ever gone to sleep without the other one next to us. Even on nights that Daniel is working - which he sometimes doesn't finish until after 11pm - I will wait up for him so we can eat, brush our teeth, and go to sleep at the same time together. It kills me when we have to get up at 6:30 the next morning, but there's no way I could sleep without knowing he got home safely.

Watch funny videos in bed.
Throughout the day, whenever Daniel and I check our social media accounts, we save anything that we want to show the other person. I usually save videos and photos from Facebook, and screenshot photos from Instagram, whilst Daniel will upvote things on Reddit. 99.99% of the things that we show each other involves a cute animal of some kind.

After we've gone through everything, we check Fail Army to see if they've uploaded a new video, and if they haven't, we watch an old one that we haven't seen before. Fail videos are a guilty pleasure of mine; I'd love to think I'm too evolved to find people injuring themselves funny, but those videos always get me. One thing I hate is pranks, though, so I don't watch any prank themed videos. They just cause me unnecessary stress.


That's it! I know it's not a particularly exciting routine, but I still love it. I hardly get to see Daniel during the day because I'm either at work or he's at school, and then in the late afternoon he'll be at work or/and I'll be cleaning or working on blog posts, so it's nice to have a few hours set aside each night to spend with each other. Do you have a nightly routine that you're particularly fond of?

Until next time,
Indya xx

Sunday, 16 April 2017

After I continuously saw many variations of this recipe on Pinterest, I knew it was a sign that I had to make them for Easter. They sounded delicious and not too difficult to make, which fits my criteria perfectly. I had to change a few things as I was unable to find butterscotch chips or chow mein noodles at my supermarket, but they still turned out great.

For the noodles, I chose a random packet of noodles that somewhat resembled a bird's nest effect. I honestly can't even remember what they were called, but I found them in the Asian section of the supermarket. I did find this similar recipe that used pretzel sticks instead of noodles after I had already made mine which sounds delicious as well.

I decided to attempt to melt some butterscotch candies in a pot, but they turned out extremely thick and would have been impossible to mix over the noodles, so I ended up using chocolate melts instead.

After melting the chocolate and peanut butter together in a microwave, I slowly added the noodles and stirred until they were all covered, then spooned small amounts into a muffin tray so that they were in the shape of small bird's nests.

Once they had cooled down and the chocolate had hardened, I realised I had failed to put enough of a hole in the middle for the easter eggs to sit in, so I put the nests in the oven until they started to melt slightly and I was able to reshape them and sit the eggs in the middle.

I honestly wasn't convinced that these nests were going to taste nice at all as they had uncooked noodles in them, but you couldn't even taste them under the chocolate and peanut butter coating. In fact, you could barely taste the chocolate either, which is perhaps why the original recipe suggests butterscotch as that is quite a rich flavour, whereas the peanut butter seemed to overpower the chocolate in my ones. Although, as I mentioned in my Ugly Muffin post, I love peanut butter and will not object to eating it straight out of the jar, so I didn't mind that that's all you could taste.

I really did like this recipe as it was a simple one that I'm sure most families would be able to do together and, most of all, the end result is absolutely adorable. I would say that they were too cute to eat, but I've already eaten over half, so that would be a lie.


Is there a certain treat or meal that you love making for Easter? Or perhaps something new that you tried this year? I would love to hear about them!

Until next time,
Indya xx

Friday, 14 April 2017

I like where I am in life right now. I have a great part-time job that I love, I'm doing a course in leadership and management, and I'm also blogging on the side - which is easily my favourite part. I'm happy with my blog at the moment; I'm happy with the schedule, the views I'm getting, and I'm pretty happy with my content as well (but, as I am very hard on myself, I always think I can do better), but of course I want it to grow. I want it to be a lot more than what it is, and whilst I know it's very difficult to turn blogging into a full time job, I would still like to be able to call it my job, even if it's not my only one.

To promote growth within my blog and my writing, I have set myself a few goals that I would like to achieve. They're pretty small, really, but they're steps that most bloggers and writers take, and ones that I think will help build my audience and reach more people. I don't have a time frame for any of them - although I do hope to at least attempt the easier ones soon - as I am trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life at the same time, but I believe that I'll know when the time is right to have a go at them.

Create a Facebook page.
This one is first because it's the easiest. I didn't realise this was a thing bloggers did until I joined a bunch of blogging Facebook groups and discovered that a Facebook page is a great way to notify people when you publish new posts. Unless someone has a Bloglovin' account or something similar, they're not going to get notifications when you upload a new post, which means that they're missing out on your great content.

I already advertise my new posts on Twitter and Instagram, but not everybody has an account on those websites, especially family members of mine - which is where Facebook comes in. It's a staple social media website that nearly everyone uses, and creating a Facebook page specifically for my blog will enable people who are actually interested in my blog to keep up with it, not just have to deal with me talking about it on Instagram because we're real life friends and already follow each other. I think it would be a good way for me to get to know my audience and see what they do and don't like - I just need to stop being shy and actually do it!

Make a custom header/logo.
This was number one on my to do list until I changed my blog theme recently, and am now very much in love with the simple header I have. In case you didn't see it, my last theme was orange, so Daniel had been playing around with an orange header for me, but I really do like the minimalist look I've got going on at the moment, so I'm not sure if I want to have a custom one at the moment - unless we can come up with a design that suits my current theme really well.

Start earning money.
I mentioned this in my 21 Before 21 post, but it is my biggest goal, so I think it bears repeating. I would love to earn a little extra money from this blog so that I am able to put more money back into it. The next goal on this list will cost money (as will a yearly subscription to Tailwind, which I really want so I am able to up my Pinterest game) so it would be really great if the money I earn from this blog could go back into it. There are many different ways to earn money from blogging (ads, affiliate links, sponsored posts), it's just the taxes side of it that scares and confuses me, but I've just got to sit down, do my research and talk to an accountant if need be.

Change to my own domain.
I didn't plan my blog at all before I started it, other than the fact that I knew I wanted to write about the adventures that I go on. Since starting my blog, I've learned a lot of different things, and I've also read plenty of "things to do BEFORE starting a blog" posts, even though I had already started mine. One of the main things I see the most on those lists is that you should have your own domain from the beginning. This way your blog really is yours and, as long as you keep paying for it, nothing should go wrong.

If you use others sites, such as Blogger and WordPress, you run the risk of them closing down and losing all your content. Also, when you eventually do get your own domain, it is hell moving all of your content over - but I did not know any of this. I had heard of BlogSpot before, so I went with them. I didn't think too much into it. It's been great so far, I've had no issues with it whatsoever, but there's something so official about just having ".com" after your title, so I would really like to work towards that.


Do you have any blogging goals of your own, or some input on the ones I have chosen? I am always up for advice and feedback!

Until next time,
Indya xx

Wednesday, 12 April 2017

 I have been very grateful for my electric blanket these last few nights. Not a night has gone by where I haven't climbed into bed freezing and been instantly warmed up by it. It really is the little things in life that mean the most.

 I have continued to get out of the house more recently, and it looks like it may stay that way for a little while. On Saturday I hung out with friends in the city, I'm going out for dinner on Thursday, and then Daniel and I are going to visit his best friend this weekend.

 Number one on the list of Things That Have Been Annoying Me this week is that I found a gorgeous pastel pink ottoman that I really want to buy for my lounge room, but I can't remember where I saw it! I found a similar, darker version on the American Target website (as well as plenty of other gorgeous pink furniture pieces that Australian Target doesn't have!), but that's not really much help to me.

 Why you should question everything.

 I've been trying to put a lot more effort into my appearance, and I genuinely think my confidence has improved a small amount because of it. Just planning my outfits in advance can make me feel so much better about myself - especially when people see me and say things like, "well, look at you!" I know that being a good person is much more important than looks, but I try my hardest every single day to be a good person, so I think I deserve to be happy with the way I look too.

 Facebook is taking action to combat revenge porn, which is absolutely great to see.

 I really love Erika's series of illustrations that represent the places and time she has felt "overwhelmed, almost like the feeling of drowning". I resonate with many of them, and I really just want to tell more people about them. The pieces are titled bed, vanity, call, knife, thank you, hide, change, friend, picture and woman. They're all incredibly beautiful and accompanied by meaningful words - not to mention that Erika is also a really lovely human being!

Until next time,
Indya xx

Monday, 10 April 2017

These posts are very common; they're almost a rite of passage for bloggers. I personally love reading them as I always think it's interesting to get a look into a blogger's life outside of what they show on their blog.

I've had trouble writing my own as my schedule has always been all over the place, but recently it has become somewhat normal. Whilst my hours at work always change, the actual days have stayed the same for quite some time, and I actually feel like I have a routine now!

A Day in the Life | The Small Adventurer

Daniel's work hours and days change weekly, so it's impossible to add them into our schedule accurately. However, they are all at night time, and never on Sundays. Apart from that, our week days usually looks like this:

Monday - Daniel has uni, I stay at home.
Tuesday - I have work, Daniel stays home.
Wednesday - Daniel has uni, I stay at home.
Thursday - Daniel has uni and I have work.
Friday - I have work, Daniel stays home.
Saturday - A free day! We might go on an adventure, clean the house, or just relax.
Sunday - This day is always reserved for Daniel and I to spend with each other. We treat ourselves to something nice for breakfast, visit some op shops, go food shopping, then come home and organise the kitchen.

The days I am most productive are Mondays and Wednesdays, so those will be the days I talk about today. I love being around Daniel, and get very lonely whenever he's not at home, but I do get a lot more done when I have the house to myself. Whilst it can differ every week, this is how a usual Monday or Wednesday is for me.

7am - Alarm goes off and I wake Daniel up. I stay in bed until he leaves at 7:30, then I go on my laptop.

7:30-8am - I check my blog views and comments, and catch up on my reading list. If it's a Monday, I will publish that day's blog post, and post about it on Twitter and Pinterest.

8:30am - I get up, have some breakfast, and move my laptop into the lounge room. I catch up on the Facebook blogging groups that I'm part of, and scroll through the dashboards of various social media platforms.

9-10am - I work on some blog posts, whether that involves adding some finishing touches, or drafting up a bunch of new posts for the future. I also check my various lists that I have on my laptop, phone and notebooks to see if there's anything that needs to be done for an upcoming blog post, such as take photos.

A Day in the Life | The Small Adventurer

10-11am - I tidy up the lounge room, because I hate being surrounded by mess. This usually just involves putting away shoes, folding the washing, and clearing the table so I am able to take photos later. I then take a bunch of photos for my blog, whether I actually have plans for the photos or not. I like doing this whilst the sun is nice and bright as it provides the best lighting.

11am-12pm - I tidy up a bit more - usually my bedroom this time - and put some washing on. Eventually I'll make myself some lunch, which might be a sandwich or a salad - unless I'm feeling a bit down about something, then I'll usually treat myself to something less healthy.

12-1pm - I've been getting more into exercise lately so I might use this time to go on my exercise bike (especially if I didn't have a good lunch) or do some weights. I usually put on some music or watching something funny whilst I'm doing this.

A Day in the Life | The Small Adventurer

1pm onwards - The rest of the day is usually spent cycling through things I've already done, such as check up on my reading list every couple of hours, doing more washing, checking social media, and writing a heap of ideas for blog posts. Although I've been very slack over the past month, I do usually read a lot too, which I can easily spend hours doing if I'm really into a book.

When Daniel comes home we'll spend some time together, have something to eat, maybe watch an episode of something on Netflix, before going off and doing our own thing until dinnertime. I'll be doing a night time routine post soon so you can hear all about the cute things that Daniel and I have incorporated into our routine.

Do you have a daily or nightly routine? Or perhaps just a few select things that you do each day? Let me know in the comments below!

Until next time,
Indya xx

Friday, 7 April 2017

I am honestly kind of freaked out about turning 21 this year. People put so much pressure on having a big 21st and celebrating the fact that you're officially an 'adult', and it's been getting me down. I've been to a few 21st birthdays over the last year and they've all been amazing. They've each had unique themes, gorgeous decor, heaps of guests, delicious food and, most of all, there's always tearful speeches from the parents. That part gets me the most because I'm not going to have that. 

I mean, I'm not going to have any of those things because I don't want to spend hundreds of dollars on a party just so other people can get drunk, but the parent thing is out of my control, which makes it annoy me more. I've decided that I'll just catch up with friends over dinner, same as I did last year, and I'm content with that - but I feel like I should also acknowledge the fact that 21 is viewed as an important birthday, so I decided to write a list of things I want to do before I turn 21. I think it would make me feel a lot better being able to wake up on my birthday feeling accomplished, and not like a 21 year old who hasn't traveled and can't drive or even cook, which is what I am.

1. Get a tattoo.
Or, alternatively, decide once and for all if I want a tattoo. I have always loved them, and I have so many ideas on what to get, but there's no denying the prejudice that still surrounds tattoos even today. Whilst I wouldn't judge someone if they had tattoos, I know others still do, and I worry that it will hinder me in finding friends and work in the future. If I decide not to care about that and get a tattoo anyway, I know exactly what it will be, and where!

2. Get a haircut.
I have not had my hair cut in a very long time. I honestly can't remember when it was. I think the last time I went to the hair dresser I only got my fringe cut since that's a fraction of the price, and even that was a long time ago - but I think I deserve to get a proper hair cut. I know my hair will thank me for it.

3. Start making money from blogging.
Money, taxes and laws all stress me out so much, which is the only reason I haven't done this sooner. I am so afraid of doing something wrong and/or getting in trouble, but I really want to start earning some money through my writing, so I've just got to bite the bullet and sort out my finances.

4. Cook dinner for Daniel and I.
If you read my Small Goals for 2017 post, you'll know that trying out new recipes was one of them - and, if you've been keeping up with my cooking posts, you'll know that I've actually been doing pretty well, but I've mostly been focusing on sweets and desserts. Daniel has always been the cook in our relationship simply because I cannot cook, so I would love to be able to make a meal for the both of us at some point in our relationship.

5. Have an overnight adventure with Daniel.
An 'overnight adventure' is such an awkward way to put it, but saying 'holiday' didn't feel accurate enough. I just want to get away with Daniel for a night or two and stay somewhere new. We've been talking about going to the snow or something similar to that, but I don't mind as long as it is an adventure, and as long as Daniel is with me.

6. Get a massage.
I can't go 21 years without ever having a (professional) massage. I am constantly in pain, especially in my back, and I honestly just want to be able to say that I've had one before.

7. Reach my next savings goal.
I originally set myself a number that I wanted to reach by the end of the year, but Daniel has since overtaken me on the who-is-a-better-saver game, so I'm going to make it a little bit harder on myself and say that I want to reach it by my birthday in September. 

8. Do some DIY projects.
Another one of my goals for this year that I just haven't gotten around to, but I've got so many ideas and I need to get started on them.

9. Get a bed frame.
I have been without a bed frame for over a year now, and before that it was broken for quite some time even whilst we used it. Honestly, the only reason we haven't gotten around to it is because it doesn't bother us not having one. The only reason I want one is to make the bedroom look neater - and for the storage space underneath!

10. Visit the dentist.
I've been to the dentist even less times than I've been to the hairdresser, and that's a huge problem. I don't know why my mum never made me go after I turned, like, ten years old, but that was a bad decision. I know I should have gone on my own a long time ago, but truth be told, the pain still scares me - as does the cost.

11. Watch more classic/well-known movies.
I always find myself stuck in conversations about movies that everyone has seen but me. I am forever missing references or not getting jokes, and I am left without anything to contribute because I genuinely have no idea what anyone is talking about. As much as I don't actually enjoy watching that many movies as I have a very short attention span, I have decided to make a note of all the movies my friends talk about and try to watch them so I can participate in discussions.

12. Bake things for other people.
For quite a while now I have had a picture of exactly who I want to be, and I've been taking small steps to becoming that person (although it's a lot more difficult than I expected), and one of the traits I wish to have is to be 'that' person who always brings food to events and catch-ups. I want people to want me to bake things for them. That would make me feel so happy and wanted; I can't imagine anything better.

13. Get a passport.
Everyday I kick myself for not getting one before I turned 18, but since that ship sailed nearly three years ago, there's not much I can do except suck it up and get one now. The price sucks, as does getting all the documents you need, but it will be so great to finally have one.

14. Have friends over.
Daniel and I have been in the same place for over a year and haven't had anyone over, apart from a couple of people who just dropped things off. There are many reasons for this (no parking, hardly any room, for a while there was nowhere to sit), but they mostly come back to me over-thinking everything. I try really hard to come across a certain way to people, and I fear that once they see my house, it's almost like the illusion will shatter. Not that I am trying to trick people into thinking I'm something I'm not, I just worry they're going to judge my house and view me differently once they see it.

15. Go searching for beach trash.
This one may sound a little strange if you're not familiar with The Dainty Squid's Found On The Beach posts, but it's something I've been wanting to do ever since I discovered her blog. I also just love visiting beaches, especially since my last visit to one has such a lovely memory behind it (although it didn't start that way).

16. Do at least one animal encounter at the zoo.
If you've been reading my blog for a while you'd know that Daniel and I have annual passes to the Melbourne Zoo and SEA Life Aquarium because we love seeing animals. Our passes to the zoo also include entry to the Healesville Sanctuary and the Werribee Open Range Zoo. After visiting the Healvesville Sanctuary not long ago, I discovered they have a close-up encounter available where you can hold a python, and I've been dying to do it ever since. I think that would be a really cool thing to be able to cross off my bucket list.

17. Keep up with going to the gym.
In my last post I mentioned that I joined a gym. I've only been able to go a few times due to mine and Daniel's chaotic and quite opposite schedules, but we aim to go at least three times a week, and I'm hoping that when September comes I'll be able to look back and say that I kept at it.

18. Try new foods.
Other than adventures, I don't like to try anything new, but especially food. Whenever I go out to eat, I'll always get either bruschetta, lemon pepper calamari, butter chicken, or a salad. I love all those foods so I'm never disappointed, but I know I'm missing out on new experiences and the chance to discovered new favourite foods, so I want to start trying new things.

19. Wear a crop top.
This one may seem a little silly, but it's actually a really big deal for me. I used to be able to wear crop tops with no problem (I mean, I've only ever owned two, but still), but ever since I started working at a fast food restaurant in a food court, I've eaten take out more than ever before, and it's usually something deep fried and greasy. I have definitely started eating a lot better this year, and exercising more, so I'm hoping to get to a stage where I can wear cute tops like this one and not feel super self-conscious.

20. Make a phone call.
This is one goal that I do not want to do, plain and simple. Unless I'm calling Daniel, phone calls freak me out to the point that I get physically sick. I hate answering them, but I hate making them most of all - even if I love the person who's calling, which I usually do, it still stresses me out more than anything else. It is my biggest fear, so I think making even one phone call would be a huge achievement for me.

21. Buy things I actually need.
Much like the bed frame that I mentioned earlier, my house is lacking some serious necessities. Sure, I have an ice cream door stop and lips-shaped telephone, but what I actually need is some dining chairs, a filing cabinet, a better way to store my shoes, and a few other things that I think will make the house feel complete. Of course, I'm sure once I get all those things I'll just think of more things that I need, but we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

There you go; 21 things I want to do before I turn 21 on September 16th. I honestly don't think I will be able to do them all, but I know now that I've actually told people my goals, I'll be more inclined to try and cross most of them off the list. Wish me luck!

Until next time,
Indya xx

Wednesday, 5 April 2017

I am constantly trying to think of ways to improve my blog. I don't think a moment goes by where I am not brainstorming content, thinking of how to incorporate something specific into a blog post, looking for inspiration all around me, or doing all those things at once.

One of the things I've been working on/struggling with is my What I'm Loving Wednesday posts. I've only written ten, but that's enough to know that I'm not loving them. I still like the idea of a broad topic though; a type of post where I can cover a range of subjects - such as an article I read, or a fun memory from throughout the week - so I have decided to change the WILW posts into Weekly Musings posts.

This way I feel less pressure to talk about items that I'm loving, and more about life in general. It also eliminates the need for these posts to always be on a certain day of the week, which makes it easier on me. Hopefully these posts will have a bit more substance than my WILW posts as well, and will allow you to keep up with my life outside of this blog.

 I've been getting out of the house a lot more lately, and seeing friends almost weekly. This is a huge change for me, and it's definitely both benefiting and hindering me in different ways. Of course I love spending time with my friends, but now whenever I'm at home, I overthink everything and end up convincing myself that they don't like being around me, despite them telling me different. I know it's just my mind playing tricks on me, but it gets exhausting always having such negative thoughts.

 I finally joined a gym! I wanted to at the start of the year, but didn't end up doing it, even though Daniel did. I finally got sick of my low self esteem and decided to just do it. I hate it when I'm there, but I feel so much better about myself afterwards. I hope I can see some results soon.

 I really enjoyed this article by a mother who believes she doesn't own her daughter's body, and therefore shouldn't get to dictate what she does with it, such as forcing her to hug and kiss family members. I think it's a unique point of view that people should take into consideration.

 Why do poor people 'waste' money on luxury items? This may be one of my favourite articles, and I definitely think you should give it a read if you've ever found yourself thinking this question, or something similar.

 With all the negativity that's constantly happening in the world, it's nice to know that good people still exist. This list of good deeds from all over the world really warmed my heart and lifted my spirits.

Until next time,
Indya xx