Monday, 26 March 2018

Stop Saying Love is Hard

Life is hard, but love is not. 

Maybe I'm naive. I'm sure lots of people will scoff at the fact that this is coming from a 21-year-old who's only been with her boyfriend for five years, but I truly believe that love is not difficult. Relationships are not difficult. Commitment is not difficult.

Whilst certain parts of relationships can be difficult - such as being able to spend time together when you have opposite schedules - I do not think that being in a relationship is hard at all. It's not hard to love my partner, to spend every day with him, or to be there for him through the rough times, and vice versa. 

It's not hard to make difficult decisions because we're always in it together. It's not hard to be around him because we treat each other with the utmost respect, and always have the other's best interest at heart.

Every situation is different, and perhaps we just haven't come across a subject that will put a strain on our relationship "yet", but when I see people in relationships talking about love being hard, it always seems to be because at least one person in that relationship is not treating the other one right. 

One of them may be taking the other for granted and not letting them know they're appreciated, or perhaps one of them continues to make decisions that they know will upset their partner - neither of these things are okay, but I wouldn't blame loveIt's not love's fault that you're not being treated right. It's their fault for doing so, and yours for not doing something about it. 

Now, I have been in an abusive relationship, so that's an entire other conversation. I am not at all saying that anyone deserves to be abused or scared within their relationship, because that is 100% never true, but generally speaking, most people who aren't in that sort of position, have a say about how things in their relationship will go - so use your voice.

If you're not being treated right, say something. If you're unhappy about something, do something about it. If there's something that you think needs changing, then change it. Don't allow yourself to feel down about yourself because that's what you think love is, and don't fall for the "fight for true love" thing if the person you're fighting for wouldn't fight for you. You deserve the world, and believe me, it's out there. I have my world, and I know you can do.

Stop settling for less because you think love is about sacrifices. Instead, go out there and tell the universe that you want the best, and won't accept anything else. It's up to you.

Until next time,
Indya xx

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